Transforming Challenging Behaviors

By April 16, 2021 Parenting

I recently attended a conference session discussing how to manage and change/transform challenging behaviors. The presenter utilized the FLIP technique at a high-needs preschool center.

It is important to note that behaviors will not change right away. With consistency in utilizing the FLIP system, you can begin to see a positive difference. Before beginning with the FLIP technique, it is essential to ensure you have established these three prerequisites: relationship, empathy, and an understanding of ICK, which is negativity or risk factors in a person’s life. Below is the meaning of FLIP and an example statement.

F – Feelings: It is important to acknowledge the child’s behavior and get to the root of the behavior, aka the feelings. Feelings are the root of the behavior.

L – Limits: Limits involve positive limits and expectations for behaviors. Limits are primarily the rules. An example of a limit can be, “we use gentle hands.”

I – Inquires: Inquires help children learn solutions to their problems. Ask the child a question such as, “how can we fix this?”

P – Prompts: Prompts can include helping children with their problem-solving while struggling.

Example Statement: A child is throwing their toys around the room. Here is an example of a FLIP statement: “I see you are throwing your toys. I wonder if you are angry.” (Feelings statement). “Remember that we need to keep our things, ourselves, and others safe” (Limits statement). “What can we do to help you calm down?” (Inquiry statement). “How about we pick up and color?”

The FLIP technique can be completed from start to finish within 1-10 minutes, depending on your experience utilizing FLIP. The more comfortable you are with FLIP, the faster you can complete it.

If you are interested in learning further on the FLIP technique, please see, where you can find additional resources, tips, and tricks. Listed below is also a handout further explaining the FLIP technique.

This blog post was written by Post Adopt Coordinator, Jaclyn Stroehl, LBSW



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